You ever see yourself pushing the limits of your abilities? You look in the mirror and you are proud of yourself. You passed that test. You wore that dress. You made that shot. You are absolutely killing the game. In that moment you are on top of the world. Then something happens. You look over your shoulders or open Instagram and see someone doing something amazing and it makes your accomplishments seem subpar. You don’t say anything, but you feel that little sting of jealousy or sadness. I can almost guarantee you have at least had this happen to you once in your life, if you deny it, you’re lying.
Well, let’s be honest. It’s not that you’re a hater, it’s just that you are doing your best and compared to some others, it just doesn’t seem to measure up. You don’t go out of your way to self-torture yourself, but somehow it happens every once and while.
I’ve been thinking a lot about the idea of greatness and success. What does it truly mean? Why does it matter? How do you measure it? The honest answer is you can’t quantify true success. It’s subjective. It’s the reason you have billionaires who are some of the most miserable people in the world.
The issue with measuring success by other people’s actions is that it’s a moving target. One day you may be on top and the next day you may be playing catch up. It’s a never-ending game and sooner or later it will get old. However, what won’t get old is self-gratification and appreciation.
The goals you set for yourself should be for you. Once you reach that goal, no one can take it away from you. You won’t find yourself sitting on the podium with the gold medal, looking over your shoulder. Instead, you will stand proudly in your glory because the most important person you beat was yourself. You outran your own expectations and that’s a feeling that is priceless.
If anything, let others inspire you to push harder, but never envy or chase what is not yours. They are running their own race just like you are. It takes less energy to cheer someone on than try to trip them along the way just so you can come out on top. The real bummer is that you may end up hurting yourself more because your energy was going into someone else other than yourself.
So, the next time you feel that unwarranted feeling of comparison or jealousy, remember that what is yours is yours and there’s no need to compete when you are running two different races. Let them be great, just as they are letting you be great by staying in their lane. Use that energy and direct it to positivity because what you exude is what will be included in your journey.
There’s room for all of us, so take your time and write your story how you want to write it. I promise no one will ever have your story and that’s why you cannot measure my pesos to your dollars.
ART simply being honest