Dear ART at 25

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Dear ART at 25,

Hey Girl! I can’t believe I just typed 25! Woah, it’s crazy how time flies when you’re living life. I feel like we just turned 24! Anywho, here we are, live and in color.

So, ART at 25, I wish this that your 25th year is one of the best years of your life. This past year has definitely been one for the books. It’s been a fun ride that had its twists and turns. You thought you were done learning about yourself, but every day there seems to be more layers to this work of ART.

As you continue to live life, I hope you continue to learn and love yourself a little more every day. Also, don’t be so hard on me and your past. While we have made mistakes, we’ve always tried to do the best we can. It’s a learning process. You’ll make mistakes this year and possibly let yourself down in a few areas, but the good news is that if you stay true to yourself, you’ll make a way through.

Even better news, I’ve set you up for the ultimate come up! You know what you have to do, you just have to do it. Don’t spend so much time pondering what needs to be done. JUST. DO. IT. Yes, get up and do it and stop talking yourself out of your greatness. I may not have made every layup, but I have the ball in the air; All you have to do is catch it.

Side note: you know that one thing you ridiculously afraid of failing at? Do it anyways.

This year, I hope you surprise yourself. I hope you exceed every expectation you once had of yourself. I hope you get out of that comfort zone and rise to the occasion. You are gathering all the tools you need for your journey, the only thing that is missing is you putting your all into it. I hope you decide that you deserve to give life your full court press.

It’s important to remember that you’re not always going to be at 100%. Sometimes, you’ll be operating at a much lower level. That’s completely okay. It’s okay to do something, instead of nothing at all. Stop holding yourself back. Progression over Perfection.

Let’s not forget: No matter how strong you are, you didn’t get here on your own. You have been blessed with an amazing support group that shows up and shows out for you constantly. Don’t take them for granted. They have helped you grow exponentially. It still takes a team. Nurture those relationships.

Also, don’t forget to make yourself smile. I see some new things entering your life. Remember that the essence of ART is ART. Don’t forget about ART. Love her. Cherish her. Appreciate her and all her forms.

Remember, instant gratification is a sham. Save your coins so you can take even more trips.

Finally, just do the best you can with what you have. Cherish your family. Save your coins. Read more. Please read more. I can feel that this upcoming ART year is going to everything you could ever want in the best possible way. Get ready girl, because your future is BRIGHT and ready to shine.

I love you girl, don’t you ever forget it.


ART at 24

P.S. This year was LIT! Don’t let anyone tell you different. You lived your best life as ART at 24. Doors have opened that you have never even thought of and more great surprises are on their way!

P.S…. Every day the world is changing more than we ever thought it would. In some ways, it can be very terrifying. Please don’t forget that there are good people out there. Remember that you are one of them. Don’t compromise your truth for temporary gain or satisfaction.

Computer Love | Hitting Reset

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Has your computer ever start ‘failing’ you while you’re hard at work typing your heart out?  You have all your current tabs open and you’re working, but minute by minute, your computer is starting to malfunction. You have everything you need open and you’re working hard, but your computer is responding slower with every click. You get the same “time for an update” notification that you’ve ignored for over a week. You ignore it. You figure you can push through a little bit more and your computer won’t let you down. You are doing everything in your power not to have to restart your entire laptop, but you know and your computer knows that it’s inevitable. Just your luck, right?

Well, here’s the thing: Once you update your computer, you know it will work that much better. The update will also give you a clean slate to start on. You probably didn’t need all those tabs open anyways.  Even if you get the “restore all tabs” once you reboot, you’ll be more cognizant of overloading your computer the next go around because you remember how it felt to have start all over again because of the last reset.

So, ART, what the heck are you talking about? Are you really writing about a computer upgrade!?!

Just follow me… Imagine, your mind is the computer. While you may be the latest and greatest version, at some point, you’ll need to restart your computer and update (or reset). Imagine the tabs and programs are tasks and thoughts in your head. While you may be able to contain and process many things at a time, if you overload your computer, usually one of two things will happen: the computer will slow down and completely stop working (forcing an involuntary shutdown and reset) or voluntary shutdown and restart because you have taken the ‘power’ in your own hands. The choice is yours. It’s imperative to pay attention to the signals and know when to reset and when to keep going. Taking care of your ‘computer’ is the same thing as taking care of yourself.

More specifically, realize that sometimes you need a fresh start to operate better. It’s all great and dandy to be able to exit out of a couple ancillary tabs and keep it moving, however, a complete reboot comes with a clear mind.

If you find yourself working on a project for an extended amount of time and nothing is going how you imagined it in your head after multiple attempts or you see yourself slowing down drastically, don’t be afraid to completely shut it down and refresh. Yes, updating means you are completely taken out of your zone. However, this gives you a chance to come back with a clear head and fresh approach. Yes, time will keep moving and you may feel idle while everything is updating; However, tell me what’s better than logging onto your computer after an update with a clear screen and a clear mind? Also, the time you’ve had to wait and reset can offer new benefits you never knew you needed. Timing is everything.

So, go ahead and give your computer some love! Hit that reset button and update. Tell me how it goes :-).


ART finally resetting

Fun Gone Wrong | I Got Stuck In The Pits of Hell!


I got stuck in the pits of hell. Don’t be me.

I don’t think I’ve ever been claustrophobic, but I can tell you I was close to the edge. *Cues Lil Uzi ‘XO Tour Life. I’d been in the freaking foam pit for approximately 30 seconds, but it seemed like an hour. Without even thinking, I jumped into the foam pit at Sky Zone. Immediately surrounded by an insane amount of foam squares, I couldn’t feel my feet. Well, I could feel them, but standing was an issue. I instantly regretted my spare of the moment “brilliant” idea to jump into the foam pit. Also, forgetting to realize that I’m a big ting that wouldn’t just float on foam!


Immediately deciding I didn’t like my predicament, I tried to walk to the to the edge of the trampoline where I could climb out. Nothing moved but my roots, which started to sweat out my silk press. So, I started to panic. I tried to step on the form squares and push myself upwards. NOTHING. At this point, I’m completely freaking out. I see the trifling worker looking at me like, “I don’t get paid enough to have those problems”.

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Ugh! All, I was thinking at this point is that I need to get the hell out of here and right now. I tried a couple different techniques in a rush to free myself from the pits of hell and…NOTHING. Your girl was shooketh to the core. I felt hopeless. So, how am I here today…

By the grace of God and whatever angels may have been looking out for me, I told myself to calm down. Breath in. Breath Out. Now, think. And that’s exactly what I did, I calmed down and thought about the most feasible way to get out the pits of hell. About 30 seconds (or more, who’s counting?), I was freed from the pits of hell and I never ever looked back or jumped into another foam pit. I swear, I’ve never felt so relieved in my life.

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Moral of my horrific story? When life throws you into the pits of hell and all hope seems to be lost, you need to calm tf down and think. While we are trying to better our situations as soon as possible, the urgency to change our predicament causes us to act without thinking. With no time to think, we usually make mistakes we normally wouldn’t make with a little pre-planning and quick thinking. No, I didn’t stay in the pits of hell for 10 minutes whining and thinking, I took a second to gather myself and thought of an efficient exit plan.

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So, don’t be like me. Instead of panicking and simmering in the pits of hell, keep calm and plan your exit.


ART never jumping in a Foam Pit

Turks & Caicos | Banana Bread & Cocoa Men

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Hello! Here’s a journal entry on my time in the Turks & Caicos. Enjoy!

We’re at the airport waiting for our plane to leave from Turks & Caicos. While I’m extremely sad to leave, this has been a relaxing, interesting and fun vacation. Turks & Caicos is filled with beautiful men and even better views. Gosh, the water is so blue! I could see my manicure gleaming underneath the water.


Out of everything, I think my favorite part had to be the water. Moving so weightless in the water is one of the most beautiful and invigorating things I’ve ever experienced. From swaying to dancing to just staring at the endless sea of blue, I could stay in the water for hours. It’s so calming and instantly takes all your worries away. I tried to create this feeling of urgency as I was floating, but it just wouldn’t happen. I was just so relaxed. The water would only allow me to breathe and keep my head above water. Every worry and thought just melted away.

The locals were all so kind and helpful. Bartender bae. Lawd, I definitely have a type. A dark chocolate man with a beautiful smile gets me EVERY TIME. Your girl realized how easy it was for her to get back in the grove of flirting. We also met this really nice older taxi man who hooked us up with a discount and took us to a restaurant. I now have a connect in the Turks & Caicos! Ayee! I have no complaints.

This one man yelled from the boat, “Hallelujah! Hallelujah! The Lord is my Shepard and I see what I want”. Without fail, the islands remind me who the heck I am…. As if I ever forgot. 🙂

Anywho, so omg! I went parasailing! Thank God for the kind cutie on the parasail boat who took pictures for me because Nanny did NOT come through for your girl lol.

20171126_123952While the Turks & Caicos is known for being extremely expensive, we stayed on quite a tight budget and made it work. The best thing about traveling with family is that we work as a team. We had a very successful trip for around $600 for two people… wow, right? Let me explain…

We didn’t rent a car, the resort had free bikes for that we could check out for up to 2 hours at a time. On Sunday, I went parasailing and Nanny just stayed on the boat. For the parasailing and Nanny staying on the boat, the total was $115, including tip. It was definitely worth it. I stayed in the air for a while and the view was beyond breathtaking.

Sunday, we took a bike ride to the grocery store and spent $70 on breakfast foods and some lunch food. Also note, since we flew Southwest, we got to bring 2 free checked bags, so we were able to bring some breakfast cereal, snacks, and water in our suitcases. That definitely cut costs. We had some unexpected things come up so having food for breakfast and lunch was clutch.


Also, we found this great ice cream and Jamaican food parlor that had beef patties, banana bread and some other stuff for cheap that was fresh. The banana bread was EVERYTHING! It was also my first time having Beef Patties, but they were fresh and delicioso! Haha! The parlor was on the way to the hotel from the grocery store so we were able to get a very inexpensive lunch and move on to the beach.

While the weather can get really hot, the bike ride to the grocery store and shopping areas is a pretty nice one. It was just great vibes.

Coco Bistro was a great restaurant to eat at and the most expensive for our trip. We spent $100 there, but it was well worth it. I can definitely see how people can easily spend over a $1,000 per person on the island. Turks and Caicos has a lot of great options for food, but since everything is imported, the prices can add up quickly, especially with a 12% tax and gratuity.

But anywho, Turks and Caicos owes me NOTHING! I had an amazing time and I look forward to coming back and enjoy this great island…

P.S. A good travel partner is key to a good trip and I just so happen to have a soulmate as a travel partner! My beautiful Nanny!


Let me know if you have any questions, I’d be glad to help out! Check out my blog about traveling solo!


ART simply in Cocoa Heaven

Traveling Solo | You Can Do It Too

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I love traveling. I love traveling so much that I don’t have time to wait for my friends to get on board.

So, let’s talk about solo traveling. First and foremost, it’s the best! Traveling by yourself means that everything is in your hands. Depending on the reasoning of your trip, you can decide on what kind of vacation you want. Do you want to sleep all day? Do you want to wake up at the crack of dawn to get the best view of the ocean? Either way, wherever you are, you don’t have the pressure of being on anyone else’s time, except dinner reservations! Now, let’s talk about how you can make sure your solo trips are that much better!


Google Maps!

I may be late to the game, but Google Maps is definitely bae when you are traveling. Once you have solidified where you are staying, you can create a map of all the places you want to go around your area. Especially if you aren’t renting a car, safety is very important when you are traveling alone. Creating a private list of your destination with restaurants, activities and shopping places will help you plan out your days better. For instance, if you want to get breakfast, watch the sunrise and go to a museum, you can visualize the path, where you can walk and when you may need to catch an Uber. Google maps is also good at showing you ratings and gives you easy access to your plan right in your phone compared to pulling out an itinerary, etc. Did I mention easy access to reviews!?!


Tired of the same angled selfies that only capture part of your face and part of the thing you’re trying to show everyone? You can get a tripod for $20 on Amazon, with a Bluetooth remote. It will honestly and truly change your life. Yes, some people may look at you crazy, but who cares if your photos come out good and you have better memories than an awkward selfie. Now, don’t get me wrong, there is NOTHING wrong with a nice selfie, but let’s upgrade our catalog! Plus, it’s always awkward asking a stranger to take your picture, especially if you’re picky!

Uber Eats/ Delivery is your friend

There is nothing like trying new restaurants when you’re traveling, but as it gets dark, it may not be the best decision to walk around a new city late at night. You can knock off some of the restaurants on your Google Maps lists right in the comfort of your hotel or Airbnb. Yes, this is a risk, but it is also a risk going out super late by yourself. Also, breakfast in bed is a treat and may be cheaper than ordering room service with the added-on fees 😊.


As an advocate for sleeping in, waking up early is definitely not my favorite thing to do. However, on vacation, waking up early can get you more bang for your buck on vacation. If you are in a very busy city, waking up early may get you some of the more sought-after attractions all to yourself. Just sacrifice a couple of hours and take a nap after lunchtime. It will be worth it.

Last but not least, HAVE FUN

You’re in a new place and it’s your personal playground. Learn how to roll with the punches and make the best of your situation. There is no point in dwelling on things not going exactly how you planned.

BREATH. ADJUST. OPTIMIZE. Optimize your experience regardless of the obstacles. As long as you feel safe, even a vacation around your hotel or Airbnb can be one to remember.


ART simply trying to catch a flight 😊.

Lessons I’ve Learned from Playing Tetris


I’ve recently re-discovered Tetris while trying to get away from Social Media… Here are some lessons I’ve learned while playing this classic game…

• Sometimes you get so in your groove, you don’t see when things are starting to speed up. Don’t panic. Keep your momentum up and focus on the task at hand.

• Not every mistake comes with a big lesson. If you can catch it soon enough, some things are easy fixes if you can identify them.

• It’s easy to stay on the same level once you’ve done it soo many times. No matter what level you achieve, if you continue to play the game, it becomes second-nature.

• If you want to grow, you might have to sit up and put in some work. Incremental change can seem easy, but once you gain some momentum, stay focused, it’s critical.

• Stay calm when things get hectic. When life is coming at you fast, this is the most critical time to stay calm and find your plan of action.  The more frantic you get, the less you can focus on the task at hand. Once you’ve leveled out, take time to decompress and reflect.

• Pay attention to the patterns. Do you find yourself falling into the same traps? Consistently making the same mistakes? Identify the patterns or even the set up that makes you act a certain way.

• Sometimes you just need to hit reset. If you see yourself heading towards destruction or failure and the foundation you laid is rocky, know when it’s time to reset and start over. Sometimes you can fight your way through the mess, but sometimes you need a moment to get yourself together to weather the storm.

• Sometimes you need a timeout. It’s better to disconnect than have to completely disappear.

• Everything and everyone isn’t going to fit into your life. Sometimes you try to make them fit and it backfires. The quicker you can jump over that hurdle, the better.

• Take time to think. If you aren’t present, you aren’t going to go far. When you’re in the game, make sure you’re present or you may lose your opportunity.

• Have fun! Life is a game with real consequences. Play it as best you can, but don’t take it too seriously.


ART simply Undone

Day Ten – Live Your Best Life Right Now!

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You need to start living your best life now. Like. Right. Now. You need to wake up and know that you can make the absolute best of each and every second of your life.

So, how the hell do you do that? Simple. You make the best out of every situation that comes your way. Yes, every situation. There is too much crap going on in this world to waste another day not living your best possible life you can. You don’t have time to waste.

Make the best decisions

You can’t control everything that happens in your life, so the things that you can control, optimize them to the highest level. If you’re going to work out, go as hard as you can. If you are going to study, do your absolute best. Don’t leave anything on the table when you can make the best choice and do your best.

Only accept the best

If you know that calling that one friend who is always complaining will ruin your day, don’t do it. If you are giving someone your best, don’t allow them to only give you their worst. Leave. Them. ALONE. You are trying to live your BEST life, that means spending your energy with people on the same page. No, you can’t and shouldn’t disappear from everyone, but know your limits.

Change as much as you can, as best as you can

The world is going through some really messed up stuff. How great would it be if everything could be fixed with a push of a button? However, it doesn’t work like that. Instead, there must be a lot of work put into making the world a better place. If only everyone lived their best lives and let others live theirs as well. Unfortunately, that’s too much to ask for. Instead, we (yes, we) good people must work extra hard to change the narrative. So, yes, go out and change the world for the better in the best way you know how. Do your absolute best. I simply ask you to know your limit because the world is the best when you’re at your best 😊.

Dress your best

Yes, it may seem cliché. Yes, it may seem so obvious. However, it’s a fact that when you look good you feel good. It’s not about anything other than you being able to look in your mirror before you walk out your door and being able to smile at yourself. No matter where you are going, you should feel your best before you walk out the door and take on the world.

Talk your best

Are you downing yourself? Are you constantly doubting your greatness? Learn how to talk yourself into your destiny and greatness. Living your best life is a lifestyle, not a hashtag. Make sure you shower yourself with affirmations. If you didn’t believe it before, you speaking it will help you believe it. So, talk yourself up and start with how worthy you are to live your absolute best life.

Recognize what is hindering you from living your best life

Take out the trash! We don’t have time for extra baggage in this pursuit of happiness. Disconnect from social media. Pick up a book. Dance in the mirror to Beyoncé. Turn off your phone for a day. Whatever it is, take out the trash and don’t look back.


Just do it. Just start today, like right now. Your life is precious and you have the magnificent task of being you. Living your best life means every night you go to sleep, you know you’ve given it your best. Nothing nor no one can take that away from you so start right now!



I can’t believe this mini-series is already over! Thank you to everyone who even read one lesson! I hope the new year brings you all your heart desires. I hope that this year exceeds all your expectations. I would love to hear and help in any way I can. Please feel free to reach out and let me know how your year is going. This has been a great exercise. Let me know if you would like to see more series like these!

Thanks and thanks again for the support!


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Day Nine – Remember Who The HELL You Are!

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When in doubt, you have to remember who the hell you are! Going into the new year, honestly even going into tomorrow, you HAVE to know who you are and what you bring to the table. Hell, if you need to bring your own engraved chair and make room, do it! There is no time to waste doubting your greatness when you know who you are.

When you know your worth, you act different, you walk different and you talk different. So, going into this new year, if you don’t know anything else, you should know you deserve the best.

I know confidence and self-realization isn’t something that comes overnight, but there are some things that are undeniable. If you are a writer, write. If you are meant to be a doctor and you know it with everything that is within you, go for it. If you know that you are beautiful after society has tried to tear you down, show that beautiful smile and live in your greatness! If you know you are meant to inspire, inspire. Deep down inside you know who hell you are, so stop denying it. Make a way out of no way and go for it. If you know you aren’t there yet, get there.

This is your journey. This is your life. Waking up, looking in the mirror and examining the real you is one of the most important things you can do. There is a gift in all of us, find that gift and use it. You are one of a kind of extraordinary worth and you need to walk in your truth.

There is already so much in the world that we can’t control, but one thing you have control over is how you feel about yourself and how you carry yourself. That is one power that you should never surrender to anyone or anything. It’s honestly one of the greatest things we possess. So, if you don’t get anything else from ART Lessons remember that you can simultaneously be a work in progress and a masterpiece at the same time.

Remember, this next year is going to be great for you simply because of who you are and what you possess internally.

P.S. It’s also okay to re-define yourself on your own terms :-).

Planning ARTwork:

Go to the mirror, look yourself in the face and introduce yourself to the new year in a 30-60 second pitch. Tell the new year who you are, what you are bringing to the table and what you plan to accomplish. If need be, write this pitch down and revisit as much as you need to.

Of course, this is optional, but if you would like to be held accountable for starting your year off right, feel free to submit your ARTwork to Any submissions will be completely confidential and act as an additional submission into the 10 Day l 10 ART Lessons Giveaway.

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Day Eight – You Deserve Better!

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As of 2017, daily social media usage of global internet users amounted to 135 minutes per day, up from 126 daily minutes in the previous year.* That’s over two hours a day gone with more than likely little to show for it other than more followers and likes! Unless you’re planning on being an influencer or something of that sort, you basically waste two hours a day on absolutely nothing that will further your future mentally or physically. You deserve better than this! Remember, in order to get better you have to do better.

So, here’s a challenge that I believe everyone could benefit from, including myself. Invest ONE hour a day to furthering yourself professionally, mentally, physically or emotionally. Let’s call this your Investment Hour. The most important part of this hour is it should be scheduled at the same time every day in order to make it a habit. No, weekends do not count.

So, what does this hour need to consist of? Well, honestly anything from writing a blog, watching a webinar, research your field of study, going to work out, updating your LinkedIn (Yes, it needs to be updated even if you have a job), or anything that provides you with a solid foundation to reach your goals.

If you know you aren’t a morning person, put up your phone an hour early and designate the hour before you go to bed to your Investment Hour. If you are a morning person, start your day off by checking somethings off your lists during your Investment Hour.

If you have to start off with a dedicated 30 minutes, work your way up to an hour and so on so forth. The purpose is to develop a habit that makes you focus on your growth throughout the year. This is a great building block to creating new habits that are customized to your journey. Creating a habit isn’t easy, but once it becomes natural and integrated into your life, it’s hard to stop. Good luck and get off your phone!

Remember, you deserve better than wasting time on things that don’t help you succeed.

P.S. There are some great apps that can help you stay focused and further your educational journey! My favs are Curiosity (an app with five-minute articles tailored to your preferences with video components) and Forest (an app that helps you stay focused and helps the planet by planting trees in exchange for you not touching your phone for a certain amount of time).


Planning ARTwork:

Considering your work schedule and sleeping patterns, plan out the optimal time of day for you to spend your Investment Hour. If you don’t know what to do with this hour, consider some of the goals you plan to reach and do some research. Write a list of about 5 articles, blogs, webinars or vlogs you can utilize to learn more about the topics that matter the most to you. No matter what you are doing, it’s important to be educated in your actions and decisions.

Of course, this is optional, but if you would like to be held accountable for starting your year off right, feel free to submit your ARTwork to Any submissions will be completely confidential and act as an additional submission into the 10 Day l 10 ART Lessons Giveaway.

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Day Seven – Break Up With Them!

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Yes, you, BREAK UP WITH THEM! Break up with anyone who constantly drains you of your energy and doesn’t come with anything to offer. Yes, harsh, but basically inevitable. Taken from one of my favorite podcasts, “The Read”, the mantra of Break Up With Him crosses all genres of relationships.

One of the hardest things you can do is break up with a best friend or someone who is intertwined in your daily life, but you can’t continue to carry relationships on your back because of “history”. The truth is no one really owes you anything, so whoever gives you their time and energy, should be appreciated. However, that doesn’t mean you have to take anything that is given to you just because someone is there. You have a choice. You, more importantly, have a duty to yourself.

If you find yourself constantly dreading picking up the phone, feeling drained from conversations, always being the bigger person or downing yourself to make someone else feel comfortable, BREAK UP WITH THEM!

No, we’re not the lady or man on the stoop walking away from all our problems as if they never happened. We also aren’t the people who get out of relationships and think that we did everything perfectly. However, we are the people who have identified what and who makes us a better person and will walk confidently in our decisions moving forward.

Note: Just because you break up with someone doesn’t mean that they are completely excommunicated. This could also mean that you distance yourself away from them in certain areas of your life. For example, instead of talking to a certain friend about relationships, talk to them about everything except that topic and change your expectations of them. Also, before you break up with them, just as in a relationship, make sure you talked to them and addressed your concerns. No one can read your mind. However, once this is all done without any positive outcome…. BREAK UP WITH THEM!

Planning ARTwork:

Evaluate your current relationships and identify areas that can use some improvement. Identify what you can do better to have a better relationship with yourself and the ones around you. Act Accordingly.

Of course, this is optional, but if you would like to be held accountable for starting your year off right, feel free to submit your ARTwork to Any submissions will be completely confidential and act as an additional submission into the 10 Day l 10 ART Lessons Giveaway.

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